Why I Stopped Trying to be Confident (Issue 139)

It isn't something you can pursue directly

Have you noticed how confidence works backwards?

You don't wake up one day and decide “I’m going to be confident today!” any more than you can tell yourself, "Just be happy, you sad little clown!"

Instead, confidence (like happiness) is the quiet byproduct of other changes and improvements you make in your life.

• The shift isn’t dramatic.

• It’s quite subtl…