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💡 Life Tip - The Reality of Bittersweet Sorrow (Issue #49)
Grief never leaves, but you can wrap it in precious memories
My wife and I were discussing loss, grief, and sorrow the other day. The topic came up because someone had asked, “Does the pain of losing someone fade over time?”
We were reflecting on the moments of pain and sorrow in our lives (e.g., losing loved ones, being bullied as children, and other failures and losses). The reality is the pain never goes away. It doesn't even grow smaller. When we probe at those moments, the pain is still there.
However, it’s not as raw and seething as it was back then. Over time, the warm and happy memories have layered themselves around the bitterness of the tragedy. So, we can reflect on all of it with a bittersweet smile of love blended with sadness. Remembering who they were. Remembering who we used to be.
Susan Cain explores this and more in her book Bittersweet. I highly recommend reading it.
“Everything that you love, you will eventually lose. But in the end, love will return in a different form.”
― Susan Cain
So, my life tip is this. Don’t expect to forget your moments of pain and loss. Don’t suppress or erase them. Learn from them, grow from them, and try to find wonderful memories to layer around them and balance them all out.
Hi, I’m Larry Cornett, a Personal Coach who can work with you to optimize your career, life, or business. My mission is to help you take complete control of your life so you can become a more “Invincible You.” I currently live in Northern California near Lake Tahoe with my wife and Great Dane.