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Write down your top 10 frustrations. Falling in love and finding your passion often occur as you unconsciously seek to soothe your frustrations.

I was inspired to share this tip when I read this quote today.

“All love stories are frustration stories…

To fall in love is to be reminded of a frustration that you didn’t know you had (of one’s formative frustrations, and of one’s attempted self-cures for them); you wanted someone, you felt deprived of something, and then it seems to be there.

And what is renewed in that experience is an intensity of frustration, and an intensity of satisfaction.

It is as if, oddly, you were waiting for someone but you didn’t know who they were until they arrived.

Whether or not you were aware that there was something missing in your life, you will be when you meet the person you want.

What psychoanalysis will add to this love story is that the person you fall in love with really is the man or woman of your dreams; that you have dreamed them up before you met them; not out of nothing — nothing comes of nothing — but out of prior experience, both real and wished for.

You recognize them with such certainty because you already, in a certain sense, know them; and because you have quite literally been expecting them, you feel as though you have known them for ever, and yet, at the same time, they are quite foreign to you.

They are familiar foreign bodies.”

— Adam Phillips, from Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life (my affiliate link)

HT Maria Popova and her wonderful newsletter The Marginalian.

I’ve been subscribed to her for several years. She’s introduced me to so many new books, authors, artists, and new insights to old books and authors I’ve loved forever (perhaps they soothe my frustration? 😉).

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Larry Cornett received his Ph.D. in Psychology from Rice University. He spent decades in the Silicon Valley tech industry as a designer, Design leader, Product executive, and startup founder. He eventually left the corporate world to start a coaching practiceand now lives in Northern California near Lake Tahoe with his wife and children, and a gigantic Great Dane. He does his best to share advice to help others create their own invincible lives. You can find him on Twitter @cornett.