The worst leaders confuse fear and respect.

They use the authority of their position, threats, and intimidation to control others. Subordinates only put up with the leader’s deplorable actions because they are forced to operate within the civilized environment of that operational world.

Leaders like this wouldn’t dare to act the way they do outside the safety of those walls and away from their hired security. If they did, they would soon discover that their fear tactics no longer worked. They would realize—perhaps for the first time—that no one actually respects them, wants to follow them, or will tolerate their despicable behavior.

I know because I spent some time in the military when I was very young, which is an environment quite different from the corporate world I later experienced. I saw firsthand the difference between respect and fear. I also realized what would happen once the rules changed, and we went to war.

It shocked me to hear my superior speak this way about an even more senior leader, but it didn’t surprise me. He was right. That leader was an idiot. He often made mistakes that would indeed get all of us killed. His commands were idiotic and uninformed. The guy didn’t know what he was doing… at all.

Yet, he was our leader and used his rank to remind us of that all the time. He threatened us frequently, perhaps knowing somehow that—secretly—we didn’t actually respect him. Instead of rising to the challenge, educating himself, and becoming a better leader, he doubled down on his bullshit behavior. He took every chance he could to remind us that he was in power.

Little did he understand how fragile his control actually was. He had no idea how quickly people intended to strip him of his power (perhaps even his life) if the opportunity presented itself and it became a choice of him or us.

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The line between civilization and barbarism is incredibly thin. We pretend it is not. We hope it is not. But all it takes are moments of chaos and desperation for it to be revealed. I’m sure you’ve seen hints of that. I know I have.

There were certainly times during my corporate career when I had to deal with a weak leader who did not deserve our respect. I did my best during those decades to only take jobs when I knew I would work for someone who was a good leader, took care of their team, had power and influence in the broader company, and had genuinely earned the respect of the team. I then knew this was someone I could learn from and wouldn’t mind reporting to. I’ve always worked hard for people I respect.

However, there is no such thing as stability in a corporation. Sure, you could join a company and work for an excellent leader. But leaders leave, re-orgs happen, and change is the only constant. More times than I wanted, I would lose the leader I had intentionally chosen and would soon be forced to report to someone else.

Sometimes that new leader was okay. Heck, there was even a time or two that the new leader was great. But, all too often, the new leader was a complete jerk and an idiot. Someone who had been promoted beyond their leadership skills. Someone I could never respect. Hell, I could barely tolerate listening to them every day.

As one of my colleagues used to say, “You can tell that this guy has never been punched in the face.”

It’s almost impossible to change a company from within, and just as impossible to remove your boss once they have been put in that seat. So, you either had to suck it up and suffer under this incompetent fool or move on and find a new job working for a better boss.

Eventually, I lost all patience for this game—the random roll of the dice that would determine if your working life was going to be good or miserable every day. So, I reclaimed my power and took control of my future. I became self-employed so I would never have to tolerate another boss who confused respect and fear, talent and title, and power and privilege.

My lesson from these life experiences is twofold:

1. Don’t put up with this type of leader. You deserve better, so demand better for yourself. Do your homework and only work for bosses who deserve your respect. If that situation changes, move on and find someone else worthy of your hard work (or leave and build your own thing).

2. Be the kind of leader who commands respect. Never lean on using your positional authority to control others. Never resort to fear and intimidation. It makes you look weak, and it fools no one, especially your most valuable people.

Respect and trust are earned, not granted. No amount of money, power, or fragile fake hierarchies can change that.

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During my hike through the forest this weekend, I recorded some thoughts about empowerment and what it means for each decade of your life. The video is embedded below.

Some people may find it odd that I simultaneously coach my clients on how to get ahead in their careers, how to exit the 9-to-5 grind to enjoy self-employment, and how to live a more empowered life.

However, I see an overall arc to our lives from our 20s to our final years that includes:

1. Getting your advanced education.

2. Leveraging traditional employment.

3. Exiting to the freedom of a lifestyle business.

4. Maximizing your enjoyment of your final years on this planet.

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It all centers on empowerment

My empowerment strategy lets you squeeze the most out of your earning years and the most life out of your later years.

• Empowered people have more career opportunities than most others.

• Empowered people feel confident and courageous in their jobs.

• Empowered people demand what they deserve from their working lives.

• Empowered people create a path to greater freedom and fulfillment.

• Empowered people get more of what they want out of life.

• Empowered people live larger and refuse to settle for less.

Summary of what I share in the video

1. The Unifying Thread of Empowerment

   1. Career coaching and self-employment coaching may seem contradictory, but they share one goal: putting you in the driver’s seat of your working life, whether that’s climbing the ladder or creating your own path.

2. From Invincible to Empowered

   1. My business branding is evolving.

   2. It’s less about feeling invincible and more about being so skilled, visible, and respected that you become more empowered.

   3. You become an opportunity magnet (I’ve talked a lot about this before).

3. Power Means You Can Walk Away

   1. When you’re truly empowered, you stop tolerating bad bosses, terrible relationships, toxic environments, and unreasonable demands.

   2. During my long career, I have watched talented people push back and win because employers couldn’t afford to lose them.

4. The Value of Inside Champions

   1. Throughout my career, former colleagues and advocates pulled me into companies and made the interview processes almost effortless.

   2. That kind of network doesn’t happen by accident.

   3. You have to earn it, expand it, and nurture it.

5. You Will Have Peak Earning Years

   1. Research shows earning potential peaks and then declines.

   2. Senior roles become scarce, and age discrimination is real (especially in tech).

   3. You need to maximize your earnings while this brief window is open.

6. Same Hours, Very Different Pay

   1. Would you rather earn $100K or $300K for the same eight hours/day?

   2. Push hard for what you deserve.

   3. Do not tolerate a one-way relationship with your employer. Get as much as you give.

7. Bank It, Don’t Burn It

   1. Live leaner during your highest-earning years.

   2. Invest aggressively, create a financial safety cushion, and start working on self-employment plans.

   3. You’re buying your future freedom.

8. Your 20s Are for Foundation Building

   1. Get educated

   2. Find your people, make good friends, discover love, and find your life partner.

   3. Start figuring out your professional path.

   4. Enjoy this time! Don’t rush the exploration phase.

9. Your 30s and 40s Are Peak Earning Decades

   1. This is your primary earning window.

   2. Push hard, climb fast, and earn maximum value for your efforts.

   3. Build your network (it’s one of your most valuable resources).

   4. Quietly line up your self-employment plan and runway, so you can flip that freedom switch earlier than most do.

10. Your 50s+ Are for Living Large

    1. Transition into self-employment that leverages your expertise and everything you already know.

    2. Work when you want, where you want, and how you want.

    3. Play a lot! I’m so glad I took the self-employment path and semi-retired early so I can enjoy my freedom and as much time as possible with the people I love.

    4. Take care of your health and enjoy the last half of your life while you still can.

    5. Life is short! Don’t save your bucket list for a decade where you can’t physically cross items off anymore.

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I grow weary of the age-old argument about money and happiness. One person will say, “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” Inevitably, another person chimes in, “Bullshit! Money sure does. It’s miserable to be poor.”

So far in my life, there have been a couple of moments when I was at my happiest.

1. When I was what many would call poor during my childhood and mid-20s.

2. When I quit Silicon Valley, returned to self-employment, and gave up a lot of income.

When I say I was poor, I mean poor. I mean:

• Taking food out of the garbage poor.

• Car breaking down every week poor.

• Selling plasma so I could take my girlfriend out to dinner poor.

I had a job, and I wasn’t homeless. But I was barely getting by, and I was always hungry.

I’m a nerd, and I love creating spreadsheets, charts, and graphics. So, I decided to look back on my life and think about my level of happiness at various points. I also captured data about my income levels at those ages. Believe it or not, I still have many of my paystubs from the 80s and 90s. Probably okay to shred those now…

For my childhood income, I used what my family earned back then. As I have mentioned before, I grew up poor. My parents worked hard to make sure we had food on the table, clothes on our backs, and a roof over our heads.

But we struggled, and I can remember times my dad worked multiple jobs and hustled on the side so they could buy us gifts for Christmas. I also remember being teased by classmates about being poor and where we had to live.

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Yet, I had a very good life at home. My parents were amazing and loving (still are). I had fun siblings to share my life with. We loved doing things as a family (hiking, fishing, camping, swimming in the river, sledding, etc). Even though we were poor, I was a happy child at home. However, I was a nerd (and a poor kid), so I was bullied quite a bit in grade school and junior high, which dragged my happiness levels down (things improved in high school, thankfully).

The funny thing is, later in life, I was at my unhappiest ever when I was making the most money I had earned in my life. Sure, I felt wealthy. We owned very nice things and made purchases without even thinking twice. I felt like we had finally “made it.” I thought it was everything I had wanted and had worked so hard to achieve.

Yet, I wasn’t happy. The more money I made and the more I pursued traditional success, the more my happiness declined.

According to the “Money Buys Happiness” folks, I should have jumped out of bed every day and danced a jig. Instead, I hated my life and wished I could fast-forward 20 years to escape it. The Severance Procedure wasn’t available, though.

It took a leap of faith and swallowing my fear (I had a mortgage, family to support, and kids in college), but I finally quit. I returned to self-employment about 16 years ago and never went back to a job.

Guess what? My income now is a fraction of what it used to be. And when I say a fraction, I mean a small fraction.

However, my happiness, health, and wellness have skyrocketed. Hell, I feel even happier than I did in my 20s, which was the last time I remember feeling hopeful and excited about life.

I think many of the Money = Happiness people are confusing security with joy. Yes, we need security and a sense of safety. You need enough money to have food, shelter, and health-related care.

But beyond that, a lot more money will not make you happier.

I know, I know. I can hear you. You think it will. Almost everyone thinks it will. Hey, I did too, many years ago.

But many are confusing lasting happiness with that momentary spike of excitement that comes with spending money. Buying nice things and fun experiences feels great in the moment. It’s a high that can even last for days, weeks, and months.

I know because I did it. I did a lot of it back then. I was trying to make myself feel better on the weekends after hating my working life all week.

But it will fade. It always does. The hedonic treadmill guarantees it.

People also forget (or don’t realize it yet) that the more money you make and the more possessions you accumulate, the more you worry about losing it all. It’s so damn stressful! I worried about losing my job, which meant I would lose my big house. I worried about my BMW getting scratched or dented.

I also worried that I wouldn’t keep getting promoted so I could make more, more, and more money! Gotta keep up with those wealthy Joneses, right?

Millionaires are jealous of multimillionaires. Multimillionaires are jealous of billionaires. And billionaires grow green with enjoy as they watch multibillionaires approach becoming trillionaires (FU, Musk. You greedy bastard.).

If money literally could buy happiness, the multibillionaires on this planet should literally be the happiest human beings alive.

But they are not. They are bottomless pits of need and greed.

They can never fill the holes inside them with enough money and material possessions. They keep trying and failing. So, they turn to sociopathic power grabs, manipulating governments, strange drug cocktails, and pursuing degenerate hobbies. They are always hoping and praying that it will make them feel something. Anything.

But it never does.

Yes, you need enough. Enough to feel safe and secure. Enough not to live in fear and worry. But that point of “enough” is a helluva lot less than most people think.

I was struggling in my 20s, but I had enough. And I was way happier when I barely had enough than later in life when I was a rich guy living in a big house in a wealthy neighborhood and driving a fancy BMW.

Learning to be satisfied with enough is the actual key to lasting happiness.

• Feeling like you have enough (and really believing it).

• Feeling like you are loved enough.

• Feeling like you are enough.

Reaching a point of having enough and being enough is the secret to joy, contentment, and fulfillment.

Sure, push hard to get enough income so you don’t have to worry about food, shelter, safety, and security. But chasing money too far beyond that point is an endless journey into the bottomless pit of insatiable materialism.

Okay, I’ll step off my soapbox now. 😉

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If our average life expectancy is 79 (U.S. data), then we need to stop thinking about the second half of life the way we do.

You are past the midpoint at 40 (and have already peaked physically in your 30s). The wild ride has hit its apex, and you’re coasting down to the end of the line.

Yet, we act as if the ride will last forever and waste so much of our precious remaining second half on things we would rather not do, if given a choice.

The full retirement age is pegged at 67 right now, and benefits don’t hit the max until 70. So, the traditional model gives us a whopping 9 to 12 years of unemployed enjoyment in the last phase of our life.

Wow, thanks. 🙄

I don’t know about you, but I didn’t like that idea much when I was approaching 50. I didn’t want to wait until the very end to squeeze in all the things I still wanted to do. All the travel and adventures I wanted to have while I was still healthy and capable.

I had already witnessed a sad number of friends and colleagues passing away in their 40s and 50s. I had my own health scare, too.

Who knows how many years we really have left?

I had a big decision ahead of me at that time, since I was shutting down my startup. There were three options.

1. Try again with another startup (and that massive commitment 😣)

2. Go back to a full-time corporate job (and having a boss again 😕)

3. Give self-employment a chance and ease into semi-retirement 🤔

Well, long story short, I went with the third option to 3x my retirement years (i.e., self-employment), and it’s been the most enjoyable, freedom-filled 10 years of my life!

I know self-employment and early semi-retirement aren’t the right answer for everyone. But I sure as heck know that it is possible for some of you because you are in a similar situation to what I was facing.

I’m just saying there is another option if you also see the sand slipping away in the hourglass of your life. And, if you also realize that the best years of your life are right now.

The good news is, trying this out is not a permanent decision. Heck, several years ago, one of my friends flowed back and forth between self-employment and jobs all the time. I’ve done it before, too. I had a tiny design agency way back in 1998 (for a few years between my corporate job at a startup and my next job at eBay). So, it’s not a one-way door, especially in this modern working world.

Worst case, you go back to a job.

However, best case, you live a more fulfilling life and have more time for the adventures you thought you would have to put off until your 70s! I’ll be talking more about this over the coming weeks and months…

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How much have you changed throughout your life?

I’m not the same person I was in my 20s. Heck, I’m not even the same person I was several years ago.

I’ve noticed that my life seems to change about every 10 years.

• The world changes.

• What I want for my life changes.

• And I pivot, adapt, and grow.

I used to think that was strange. Why couldn’t I choose a path and take it all the way to the end of my days? Isn’t that what we're supposed to do?

But I eventually realized that is an artificial view of life and reality. That’s not stability. It's stagnation and decay. Nothing is fixed. Nothing is forever. And that’s a good thing.

Life is supposed to be a series of reinventions.

• You can try to fight it.

• You can refuse to budge.

• And… you will get tossed around.

Or, you can recognize that chaos is powerful and change is inevitable. We’re all experiencing that right now! Glide on top of those wild currents and use the energy to guide your life in the new directions of your choosing.

Don’t fight reinvention. Accept it, harness the power, and get ahead of it, rather than resigning yourself to being a passive victim.

Become who YOU want to become. Don’t let yourself fade into a weaker shadow of what you used to be. This is your chance for renewal and a fresh, exciting start.

The most interesting people are those who are always exploring, learning, evolving, and improving. There is no such thing as “perfection,” so why would you pretend that you have achieved it or try to stand still?

The idea of never crossing the finish line—never reaching the summit—is stressful and depressing for some people. Maybe I’m the strange one, but I find it exciting that the journey never ends. The adventure never ends.

• Have you ever read an amazing book and wished it would never end?

• Have you ever watched a wonderful movie and felt sad when it ended?

• Have you ever been on a fantastic vacation and wished it would last forever?

Your life can be like that!

Reframe that lack of perfection and absence of a finish line as the sign that your life is an ever-evolving adventure and you are the hero of that story who will continue to become more than you ever imagined.

I get chills when I realize that! It’s pretty damn amazing. But it requires that you take ownership of your life and your path. Don't let anyone else put you in a box and limit what you can become.

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We’ve never felt unsafe in Mexico before, but we had a few unsettling days on our recent trip to Puerto Vallarta to celebrate our 35th anniversary.

On Sunday, February 22nd, the cartel leader, “El Mencho,” was killed during a military operation in the western state of Jalisco in Mexico. Around 8:30 AM, we were sitting on a balcony enjoying our coffee when we noticed a plume of black smoke rising above the apartment building across from us.

There were several people on their balconies in that building, so we asked if they knew where the smoke was coming from. One man said, “Yeah, there’s a bus on fire on the next street.”

Hmmm… okay. So, why were more people on other balconies staring and pointing in the other direction behind our building?

I told my wife that I was going up to the roof to get a better view of the city and find out what was going on. When I reached the rooftop, two stories above our place, there were a few people already there looking around. I noticed multiple columns of dark smoke rising from the surrounding streets, behind other buildings, and across the entire city in the distance.

“Uh oh,” I said to the man standing next to me. “This is intentional. These fires are no accident.”

No one on the roof knew what was behind the fires, so I went down to the ground floor to talk with the lady behind the front desk in the lobby. When I asked about the fires, she seemed surprised and said, “No se.” She didn’t know.

I returned to our apartment to let my wife know what I had seen, and we began searching global news sites, local sites, and other sources. At this point, I was worried that this might be violence targeting tourists, since it seemed concentrated in our neighborhood, which is a region of the city densely populated with expats and tourists. We could find nothing about it until we came across a few posts on social media (either Reddit or Threads) that said it was the cartel retaliating against the federal government for the death of their leader.

Slowly, the information began trickling through the news outlets. More videos and photos were being shared on social media, too. It was indeed cartel violence, and they were setting vehicles on fire to block the streets and highway in Puerto Vallarta (mostly buses, taxis, and a few other vehicles). They also set fire to several businesses, primarily focusing on OXXO convenience stores. We read that this was also happening all over Jalisco. Guadalajara

From the videos shared and news reports, it was clear the cartel was not targeting civilians. You could see them calmly escorting people out of their vehicles before setting them on fire. Despite the chaos and destruction, no civilians were injured or killed. Sadly, several national guardsmen lost their lives in the military operation and during the violence afterward.

It may seem like a strange response, but I calmed down a lot once I knew it was the cartel retaliating against the federal government. They were not targeting us. Of course, we still felt incredibly worried as we watched fires burning all over the city and new fires springing up nearby. But we knew we should be relatively safe if we stayed inside the building and out of the way of the cartel members.

My 15 mins of fame on the Chicago News (starting around 20:40). 😂

For the next two days, the city was pretty much in lockdown. One strange thing we noticed during this time, when the cartel was actively roaming the streets: there was no police or military presence at all. None. They didn’t show up until it was all over. And show up they did, with a vengeance. 🤣

• Police vehicles drove by with lights flashing about every 60 seconds.

• Military vehicles with mounted machine guns and loaded with armed soldiers showed up all over the neighborhoods.

• Military helicopters flew overhead and circled our building.

So, will we return to Mexico?

Will we feel safe traveling the world now, or are we too traumatized?

⬆️ Scroll up, hit play, and listen to what I think about all of this. Hint: Be smart and be prepared, but don’t be afraid.

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We just spent two weeks in Mexico in an apartment in Puerto Vallarta. I can confirm what the article below references. No, you cannot flush toilet paper.

The local plumbing rarely supports it. Instead, they usually provide a small trash can in the bathroom for the used paper. You can read the article to learn why this is the case, but I recommend the solution below, which helps address the issue no matter where you travel.

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This isn’t the first time I’ve encountered a similar situation with old plumbing that doesn’t handle toilet paper. It was the same when I was at a quaint little hotel in Crete, Greece.

Of course, the idea of putting used toilet paper in a trash can kind of freaks out the average American, who may not travel far and wide in this world. Without going into unnecessary detail, let’s just say the smell of a trash can like that will quickly become quite unpleasant.

This is less of an issue if the bathroom provides a bidet. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case. Our apartment in Mexico, for example, did not have a bidet installed. This is when a portable travel bidet comes to the rescue! I purchased one a few years ago, and it has come in handy on international trips, camping trips to remote cabins, etc.

You should do your own research when purchasing a travel bidet, but I selected the Happy Bottom portable bidet for a few reasons:

• It had good reviews.

• It’s a family-owned small business.

• The design is light and portable.

• The nozzle/sprayer is angled and can rotate.

• It provides a decent water capacity.

• No batteries or electricity are required.

• It’s pretty easy to use!

I’ve also installed bidets in our home. My only regret is that I spent most of my life without understanding how amazing they are (e.g., their cleanliness and environmental friendliness). Americans could learn a thing or two from our international friends!

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We recently celebrated our 35th anniversary in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, before things went crazy with the cartel retaliation. We’ll certainly never forget this one!

Our return flight was canceled, and the PVR airport wasn’t really operating, so it took quite some time to rebook amidst all the chaos and eventually get back home. We had to play it day by day, which ended up almost doubling our stay in Mexico.

We were right in the middle of the pandemonium in the Zona Romantica, with fires all around us and throughout the city. The first two days were pretty rough (e.g., no food), but we discovered we weren’t the target. I’ll share more of that story in an upcoming podcast episode.

I am worried about the local economy there and the impact all of this will have on jobs and tourism revenue. It’s going to be hard for Mexican citizens as the ripple effects are felt throughout the year.

We still love Puerto Vallarta, and I’m sure we will be back. It’s a resilient city full of wonderful people.

As we walked down a street one day, a man stopped us to ask how long we had been married. Then he asked what our secret was to a long marriage.

I share more of that story and why I think our marriage has lasted in the video above.

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I’ll explain more in a longer podcast episode next week. From now on, I’m going to be sharing more of my journey as I practice what I preach and continue to do my best to live an Invincible Life.

Long story short, I won’t be promoting the Invincible Life Guide here anymore.

Play the video above for more details. I’m heading off to Mexico for vacation, so I’ll see you when I return!

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Grab the content of this week’s update so you can paste it into your copy of the Invincible Life Guide. It’s about the gap between where you are today and where you want to be by the end of this year (your life goals for 2026).

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The Invincible Life Guide for 2026

I created the companion guide to provide additional structure for the weekly emails I will share with you this year. If you haven’t grabbed your copy yet, use the button below to access and save it.

It’s in Google Slides format, so you can save a copy of the presentation to your own Google Drive in your preferred folder. This will allow you to edit the placeholder text to enter your answers to the questions in the guide.

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How to use the guide

• Every month this year will have a specific theme.

• Each week will have a set of homework questions related to that month’s theme.

• I will share a new presentation document with that week’s questions via the newsletter email and in my private community.

• Then download the new presentation, copy and paste the new slides into your editable copy of the guide, and use it to answer the questions.

I have already included all the slides and questions for January (i.e., Your Goals) in the guide. New slides will come each month. Stay tuned for more emails about those.

Themes this year

1. Your Goals

2. The Blockers (February)

3. Your Toolbox

4. Strategy & Plan

5. Making Progress

6. Becoming Invincible

7. Your Network

8. Targeting

9. Broadcasting

10. Systems

11. Resources

12. Evaluation

Schedule a complimentary call with me if you have questions about the guide and how to use it effectively.

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I set up a ☕️ Buy Me a Coffee to let folks help support my newsletter and podcast without an ongoing financial commitment. I’m a solopreneur, and coaching and writing are how I provide for my family. Thanks for your help!

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What stands between you and what you want most for your life this year?

That’s the theme for February in The Invincible Life Guide for 2026. I explain it in more detail in the video above.

You can also check out my January post about setting goals for yourself this year (and why it matters), if you haven’t read it already.

Grab the content of this week’s update so you can paste it into your copy of the Invincible Life Guide.

Get the Update

The Invincible Life Guide for 2026

I created the companion guide to provide additional structure for the weekly emails I will share with you this year. If you haven’t grabbed your copy yet, use the button below to access and save it.

It’s in Google Slides format, so you can save a copy of the presentation to your own Google Drive in your preferred folder. This will allow you to edit the placeholder text to enter your answers to the questions in the guide.

Get the Guide

How to use the guide

• Every month this year will have a specific theme.

• Each week will have a set of homework questions related to that month’s theme.

• I will share a new presentation document with that week’s questions via the newsletter email and in my private community.

• Then download the new presentation, copy and paste the new slides into your editable copy of the guide, and use it to answer the questions.

I have already included all the slides and questions for January (i.e., Your Goals) in the guide. New slides will come each month. Stay tuned for more emails about those.

Themes this year

1. Your Goals

2. The Blockers (February)

3. Your Toolbox

4. Strategy & Plan

5. Making Progress

6. Becoming Invincible

7. Your Network

8. Targeting

9. Broadcasting

10. Systems

11. Resources

12. Evaluation

Schedule a complimentary call with me if you have questions about the guide and how to use it effectively.

Book a Free Call with Me

I’m Larry Cornett, Ph.D., an Empowerment Coach who works with ambitious professionals to help them reclaim their power, become more invincible, and create better opportunities for their work and lives. Do more of what you love and less of what you hate! 📕 Check out my Invincible Daily Journals.

I set up a ☕️ Buy Me a Coffee to let folks help support my newsletter and podcast without an ongoing financial commitment. I’m a solopreneur, and coaching and writing are how I provide for my family. Thanks for your help!

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My goal with this newsletter and podcast has always been to help you become more invincible in your life. But what do I mean by that?

Basically, that means having the confidence, courage, and means to work and live your life the way you want. To be free of someone else—or something else—controlling you, owning your time, and deciding how and where you spend your days.

I’ve written about the concept of an “Invincible Life” before and how it can apply to your personal life, your career, and your solopreneur business. The book I’ve written, and am now in the process of editing, is all about how to become more invincible in your life. I boiled it down to the principles listed below, and the book's chapters go into much more detail on that process and journey.

The 10 Principles of an Invincible Life

1. Live where you will enjoy your quality of life

2. Work where you want to spend those hours

3. Become known for what you believe and do

4. Transform your work and life to be meaningful

5. Take control of how you work and live your life

6. Own your time to control when you work and play

7. Spend time with people who bring out your best

8. Find fulfillment by creating, helping, and improving

9. Free yourself to never again feel trapped

10. Empower yourself and never again feel vulnerable

The companion guide

I created a brief companion guide to provide additional structure for the weekly emails I will share with you this year. It’s in Google Slides format, so you can save a copy of the presentation to your own Google Drive in your preferred folder. This will allow you to edit the placeholder text to enter your answers to the questions in the guide.

Get the Guide

How to use the guide

• Every month this year will have a specific theme.

• Each week will have a set of homework questions related to that month’s theme.

• I will share a new presentation document with that week’s questions via the newsletter email and in my private community.

• Then download the new presentation, copy and paste the new slides into your editable copy of the guide, and use it to answer the questions.

I have already included all the slides and questions for January (i.e., Your Goals) in the guide. New slides will come each month this year. So, stay tuned for the emails about those!

Themes this year

1. Your Goals

2. The Blockers

3. Your Toolbox

4. Strategy & Plan

5. Making Progress

6. Becoming Invincible

7. Your Network

8. Targeting

9. Broadcasting

10. Systems

11. Resources

12. Evaluation

⬆️ Scroll up and hit play to listen to my full explanation of how to use the Invincible Life Guide this year.

Schedule a complimentary call with me if you have questions about the guide and how to use it effectively.

Book a Free Call with Me

I’m Larry Cornett, Ph.D., an Empowerment Coach who works with ambitious professionals to help them reclaim their power, become more invincible, and create better opportunities for their work and lives. Do more of what you love and less of what you hate! 📕 Check out my Invincible Daily Journals.

I set up a ☕️ Buy Me a Coffee to let folks help support my newsletter and podcast without an ongoing financial commitment. I’m a solopreneur, and coaching and writing are how I provide for my family. Thanks for your help!

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Sometimes, experiences are richer when shared with someone else. However, there are times—believe it or not—when an experience is better solo.

But, the worst experiences, hands down, are the ones you avoid because you don’t think you deserve them or feel silly doing them alone.

I can still remember the first time I:

• Watched a movie in a theater alone.

• T…

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17 years ago, I woke up after the usual holiday excess and committed to recovering my health and wellness. I started…

• Lifting weights daily

• Hiking, running, or skiing weekly

• Eating healthier (e.g., cutting out a lot of fast food garbage)

• Maintaining a much better sleep schedule

I lost over 40 lbs and soon felt better than I had in decades. I’m literally str…

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What do you want to achieve in your personal life this year?

Today, I’m asking my career coaching and business coaching clients to brainstorm their goals for 2026. I think it’s a great time to ask you what you want for your life this year, too.

On the one hand, many of us in America are just trying to survive the chaos and uncertainty of what it’s like t…

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• “I’ll be happy when I go on vacation.”

• “Things will get better next week, month, or year.”

• “I can finally enjoy myself when I have more money.”

• “I’ll get to live the life I have always wanted when I retire.”

These are the endless promises of tomorrow. But you don’t live in “tomorrow.”

The past is gone, and tomorrow doesn’t exist yet. You have only today. You have only this moment. You can only experience the now.

Stop sacrificing the reality of now for the illusion of tomorrow.

You never realize it’s the last time

• The last time you’ll engage in a childhood activity.

• The last time you’ll play ball with your dad.

• The last time you’ll make cookies with your mom.

• The last time you’ll play with your kids at the park.

• The last time you will read them a bedtime story.

• The last time you will pick them up in your arms.

• The last time you will see a loved one.

Losing my mother-in-law

My wife lost her mother 26 years ago today. We were visiting for Christmas with our toddler daughter and baby boy. One tragic car accident changed everything forever.

She was such an amazing woman. She was thrilled to be a grandmother, and I’m glad she had the chance to experience it.

But we did not know that would be the last time we would see her.

You never get over the loss of a loved one. The pain becomes deeper, and you learn to live with it as the years go by. But you never fully recover, and of course, you never forget.

Luckily, my wife and her mother were really good about staying in touch. They talked almost every day. We visited as much as we could, and they came to see us, too.

The internet was still pretty new, and smartphones didn’t exist. So, I remember being much more present when we were all together.

How times have changed

Now, things are so different. We all carry a tiny computer around all day long. Social media buzzes and flashes, demanding our attention.

All the likes, comments, messages, and arguments. All day long. All night, too.

No one seems to be fully present anymore. When we go out into the world, everyone is staring at their little screens.

• Driving with their tiny screen in one hand.

• Walking through the store while staring at their phones.

• Even while eating lunch or dinner with other people.

I don’t like what it has done to us. Hell, I don’t like what it has done to me! As a solopreneur, I have to fight the urge to be on my phone constantly.

• Checking messages.

• Engaging with my communities.

• Taking photos and videos to share online.

• Marketing, posting, and commenting to make the algorithm gods happy.

I hate it. I’m Gen X, so I remember a time before it was like this.

I recently launched a Gen X community with a friend. We asked everyone to share their favorite memories of the past.

One common theme? People miss not always being connected and on. When we left home to do something with friends, the phone stayed there. No one could reach us. So, we were 100% present with our friends, doing whatever activities we wanted.

Speaking of being in the moment…

We need more of this single-tasking in our lives. Our modern multitasking is out of control.

We have a perfect opportunity to test this right now. You are probably enjoying the holidays and have some time off work. Do you have friends and family celebrating with you?

Here’s a challenge:

• Put your phone away and be fully present with your loved ones.

• Take photos if necessary, but save them to post later.

• Stay off social media and avoid the news (it’s a buzzkill, for sure).

• Talk with people, play physical games together, and enjoy fun conversations over good food and drink.

We think we are present when we are talking with someone while scrolling on our phones. But, we absolutely are not.

So, challenge yourself to be fully present during your holiday celebrations.

⬆️ Scroll up and hit play if you want to listen to my full discussion on this topic.

By the way, you can always schedule a complimentary call with me if you want to chat about anything and get some advice.

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I’m Larry Cornett, Ph.D., an Empowerment Coach who works with ambitious professionals to help them reclaim their power, become more invincible, and create better opportunities for their work and lives. Do more of what you love and less of what you hate! If you’re interested in joining my free Invincible Life community, please complete this application form, and we’ll get back to you.

I know some people would like to help support my newsletter and podcast, but don’t want to commit to a monthly fee. So, I set up a ☕️ Buy Me a Coffee to let folks contribute without an ongoing financial commitment. I’m a solopreneur, and coaching and writing are how I provide for my family. Thanks for your support!

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I’ve had moments in my life when I was worried about my drinking habits. There was a particularly dark time in my very early 20s when I had kind of given up on things. So, I was drinking a lot. I mean, a lot. Like starting my mornings with vodka and orange juice before going to work.

I had dropped out of college that year, and my close friends were just…

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Here’s some counterintuitive health advice:

DISCLAIMER: This advice isn’t for everyone, of course. Your back issues may be different from mine. I am not a medical professional or a certified trainer. Please consult your doctor before starting any exercise program.

Okay, no…

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And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home, son
And I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then, Dad

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We have been discussing emotional wellness this month in my empowerment community (you can apply here to join for free). That includes:

• Being able to manage your emotions in stressful situations

• Feeling emotionally supported in your daily life by friends and family

• Finding activities that create a sense of calm and inner peace

• Bouncing back quickly after emotional setbacks

Below, I summarize what I discuss in this podcast episode. Scroll up, hit play, and listen to my full discussion.

Reality Check: Life Will Never Be Perfect

• The myth of “having it all together”

• Why chaos and setbacks are inevitable

• The danger of expecting constant bliss

• Redefining your baseline expectations

• What emotional wellness really means

Building Your Foundation for Resilience

Sleep

• Why sleep deprivation destroys resilience

• Treating sleep as essential, not optional

Exercise

• I got serious about exercise in my 40s, but start sooner if you can!

• Physical resilience creates emotional resilience

• Consistency matters. Do something every day.

Time in Nature

• The restorative power of green exercise

• My wife and I take off every Wed to hike or ski

• Making it a priority, not an afterthought

Relationships

• We are facing a loneliness epidemic

• It’s essential to maintain friendships online and offline

• Why connection matters for emotional stability

Routines

• Morning routines help (e.g., I journal while I enjoy my coffee)

• Evening shutdown rituals

Processing Setbacks When They Happen

Don’t Suppress, Don’t Spiral

• Acknowledge and process emotions

• Writing things down to gain clarity

• Identifying what you’re really feeling and why

Separate Events from Identity

• “I failed” vs. “I am a failure”

• Remembering past challenges you’ve overcome

• The “Story of You” exercise

• Your core identity

Reframe the Narrative

• What if this setback is actually a gift?

• My personal examples (e.g., job losses that led to better opportunities)

• Reframing fear as excitement

• Looking back months or years later with a new perspective

Your Recovery Toolkit

Healthy Self-Soothing Methods

• What doesn’t work (e.g., junk food, alcohol, doom scrolling)

• What does work (e.g., exercise, nature, art, music)

• Using these as “vitamins” (preventive), not just “painkillers” (reactive)

• Recognizing early warning signs before you spiral

Regaining Control

• Why setbacks make us feel powerless

• Returning to routines and rituals

• Creating small wins

• Forward-looking goals

Talking It Through

• The value of judgment-free listeners

• Friends, loved ones, or coaches

• Venting vs. problem-solving conversations

• Getting perspective from outside yourself

The Long Game: Emotional Wellness as Practice

• This is a lifelong skill that you will keep developing

• Being patient with recovery

• Learning to set better boundaries

• Monitoring and adjusting continuously

Schedule a complimentary call with me and let’s chat about your wellness plan!

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I’m Larry Cornett, Ph.D., an Empowerment Coach who works with ambitious professionals to help them reclaim their power, become more invincible, and create better opportunities for their work and lives. Do more of what you love and less of what you hate! 📕 Check out my Invincible Daily Journals. I have one specifically for the Winter!

I know some people would like to help support my newsletter and podcast, but don’t want to commit to a monthly fee. I get it! So, I set up a ☕️ Buy Me a Coffee to let folks contribute without an ongoing financial commitment. I’m a solopreneur, and coaching and writing are how I provide for my family. Thanks for your support!

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